Thursday, September 22, 2011

Expecting Others to Love You

I'm testing out a new theory: that you it is safe to relate to everyone as though you thought they loved you - as long as you also love them, and treat them as beloved. Surely not all people will not return the love, but how excellent it will be when someone does! I will try to hold this as an intention. It is not like, "I must be loving." It is, "You might well love me, and I love you for that possibility."

If I get any interesting results, I will let you know.

Sunday, September 4, 2011


Here is a YouTube link from my sister. Does anyone else consider the Three Stooges to be a basic cultural building block?

> On Fri, Sep 2, 2011 at 11:52 PM,  You wrote:

Thursday, September 1, 2011

The Present Moment

The present moment:

1.) the moment after the past, and before the future. An infinitessimal instant of time. Scientists are not sure that it exists. They are sure that our intuitions about it are wrong.

2.) All conscious experience, current, remembered and anticipated, from the perspective of "now." This includes the immediate experiences of sights, sounds, flavors, and physical feelings, as well as the presentation to consciousness of such memories, plans, fears, confusions, emotions and fantasies as arise. The content and beliefs that those memories, plans, etc. themselves represent, are not part of "now," so in the most basic, physical sense of existence, they don't exist. But the experiencing of them is part of "now". I think this is what the sages mean when they say, 'past and future do not exist.' It can sound like a tautology, but it is really referring to the fact that "now" is unburdened by so very much of what we think 'exists.'

"The content and beliefs that those memories, plans, etc. themselves represent" is a phrase that requires some expanding-upon. I might have a fear, the content of which is, "My spouse may be dead." The fear itself is an experience that happens to me; it exists at some period in time. The content of my thought is representational. It is a story, or a presumption. It may or may not correspond to reality in varying ways and degrees. But we can differentiate it from direct experience. We can realize that representational thought is a servant, not a master. Direct experience is that which needs to be welcomed for what it is, not for how it is represented in our minds. We can reject ideas, but not experience. The good news is that we never have to reject experience. That is also the hard news, still, for me.

I have been given the feedback that I need to be less presumptuous about my perceptions being the gospel truth. I know they are not. Sorry if they still sound that way.